P and I don’t celebrate Valentine’s Day. Is that weird? My theory is that his birthday two days later sort of maxes us out in the celebration department. Any other couples out there not celebrating, or is this just something that my husband has convinced me is normal?
Since I think that makes us seem totally abnormal and unloving, I’m going to share something we’ve been doing since the start of the year that has been a helpful tool in the love and marriage department. Based on a post on the blog Today’s Letters, P and I started doing “Tuesday Talks.” Every Tuesday, no-matter where we are or how the day went, we ask each other the same four questions:
1. How did you feel loved this past week?
2. What does your upcoming week look like?
3. How would you feel most loved & encouraged in the days ahead?
4. How would you best feel pursued in sex / intimacy this week?
At first it was actually fairly awkward to answer the questions with a straight face, which is kind of sad considering that we are married and should be comfortable talking about those sorts of things, right? It’s actually gotten a whole lot easier though, and I think as it gets easier our answers become more honest, which really does help shape how the week goes. It sounds silly, but it’s actually been very good. It also doesn’t generally take very long. At most maybe a half hour, which is really a pretty small amount of time to shut down our computers and actually talk to each other without distractions.